Interesting to me as a 56 year old father of 3, professional job, owner of houses and coach and athlete and friend, son, brother is that real life is the octopus, with its many tentacles. As you choose big things (job, marriage, kids) you must be willing to shrink your personal self / ego for the well being of those things that you choose that are bigger than you. There are few to no opportunities for this optimal work/rest paradigm. Duty to others trumps all, especially if you choose to honour your big choices, the long term ones, the ones that really matter. You certainly don’t want to find yourself in no man’s land. So choose wisely, young Jedi.
I don’t think the octopi of life and of internal yearnings are mutually exclusive. While I don’t disagree with your idea that duty to others in your big choices trumps all, I think you run the risk of losing yourself if you don’t make room for the octopus of internal yearnings. How I find myself hobbyless in my mid life... or perhaps just a case of work-life seasons. Intriguing read, Tommy, thanks!
Super relatable! Have definitely thought about this problem myself, and love how you're taking the problem on from different angles. Another James Clear concept I loved was the embracing constraints - e.g. if I gave myself only 30 minutes each day to get an 80/20 outcome in health or relationships, what actions would be most impactful
Hey Roberto, thanks so much for the feedback. Really glad you found the ideas interesting. Tim Ferriss has a similar question in that vein: "What if there was a gun to my head and I had to do this in 15 minutes? How would I define it or delegate it?".
Another interesting idea is removing constraints. The theory of constraints explains how systems are bottlenecked by their weakest link. "What constraint, if removed, would make me 5x, 10x, or 20x more productive?"
Interesting to me as a 56 year old father of 3, professional job, owner of houses and coach and athlete and friend, son, brother is that real life is the octopus, with its many tentacles. As you choose big things (job, marriage, kids) you must be willing to shrink your personal self / ego for the well being of those things that you choose that are bigger than you. There are few to no opportunities for this optimal work/rest paradigm. Duty to others trumps all, especially if you choose to honour your big choices, the long term ones, the ones that really matter. You certainly don’t want to find yourself in no man’s land. So choose wisely, young Jedi.
I don’t think the octopi of life and of internal yearnings are mutually exclusive. While I don’t disagree with your idea that duty to others in your big choices trumps all, I think you run the risk of losing yourself if you don’t make room for the octopus of internal yearnings. How I find myself hobbyless in my mid life... or perhaps just a case of work-life seasons. Intriguing read, Tommy, thanks!
Super relatable! Have definitely thought about this problem myself, and love how you're taking the problem on from different angles. Another James Clear concept I loved was the embracing constraints - e.g. if I gave myself only 30 minutes each day to get an 80/20 outcome in health or relationships, what actions would be most impactful
Hey Roberto, thanks so much for the feedback. Really glad you found the ideas interesting. Tim Ferriss has a similar question in that vein: "What if there was a gun to my head and I had to do this in 15 minutes? How would I define it or delegate it?".
Another interesting idea is removing constraints. The theory of constraints explains how systems are bottlenecked by their weakest link. "What constraint, if removed, would make me 5x, 10x, or 20x more productive?"